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What does friendship means?..
According to wikipedia.org, FRIENDSHIP is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of n
-->eed or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.
Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:
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Every friendship, even the best of them, has predictable peaks and valleys---but the low points can still threaten even a solid friendship. Perhaps, the friend who you were sure would be your best friend forever (BFF) is beginning to feel intrusive and grating on your nerves. Or your BFF has disappointed you, let you down big-time, or displayed an inexcusable lapse in judgment. It may even be something more subtle, yet equally serious: You’re seeing each other less and less, and you simply feel like you are drifting apart. Many close friendships on the brink of disaster can be salvaged if friends are able to communicate openly and tell each other what’s bothering them. But it’s normal to feel awkward and tongue-tied about speaking up and talking about uncomfortable things; we all find it difficult to find the right words to say at the right time.
From the fracturedfriendships.com, here is an illustration of a fractured friendship. > When your friend seems to be booked and inaccessible, and you feel like you are drifting apart...
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This can happen when one friend gets married or has a baby or gets a big promotion—and the other friend does not. One has a new life style and/or new time consuming responsibilities and obligations. It can take time for both of you to figure out how to adjust. Tell the person, “I feel we hardly get together anymore and I’m afraid we’re disconnecting.” She may be as unhappy about it as you are. A conversation can lead to brainstorming solutions. It’s up to her to make an effort, however, because you’ve been trying to get together all along.

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Many friendships last a lifetime---others blow up, fall apart or die on the vine, it's up to us on how we we're going to hold on that friendship we knew all along or either leave it that way. There are some instances that we sometimes feel that our friendship to someone is slowly drifting apart. Although, you don't have problem with each other, it's just that because you realize that you have different lives now. Sometimes no matter what we do just to nurture the friendship, we don't know on up to when are we going to hold on. It's also painful to us when we lose friends or friendships fail. In this kind of world, it's hard for us to find a true friend. -->

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