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There is no actual time table on when you can move forward from whatever kind of emotional pain. The wound from a fractured friendship may also fall under this things that never leave you. I have chosen to simply avoid them for a long time because it feels like it's easier to forget the pain and more comforting that time than seeing them everyday as if nothing happened. As time passed by, I have asked myself, "I should be better by now, right?" but then I always goes back to that same feeling of hurt. I came to the point of thinking that I would never ever get over from it and maybe I already lost the friendship we had. It took me years before finally realizing that I am really over it, that I really missed them, that I can't just throw away our years of friendship just like that only because of that jerk, and that I can't let him win of this battle by loosing my friends in return. I am not proud of the wasted time I have let passed by, but maybe I just neede...

We all build relationship with every person in our life, whether it is family, friends or a more intimate relationship with someone special. We are all different persons, no matter how close we are to each other or no matter how we try to adjust with one another, there will always come a time that we'll have arguments or misunderstandings. The point is, no matter how many times we argue, we should always be reminded that we should not let our differences separate us, we should not let it define our relationship with one another, that at the end of the day we'll always remember how important that person/people in our life and we still choose to treasure what we have with them. Sad truth is, it's just easier said than done. It's not because of pride.. we all have reasons why, reasons that only ourselves can understand. Some people let their relationship just drift away when something went wrong. They chose to give up the relationship they have because they can't ha...

You know when someone's been truly hurt if they decide to ignore someone no matter how that person tried reaching out to you. Friendship or any other kind of relationship is like a glass that's been broken, no matter how much you wanted to fix the crack it will never be the same again. All this anger I felt was bottled up inside me. I know the fact that if you hold on to much to anger it's not the person you are giving burden to, but yourself, you don't feel any peace at all. Maybe I wasn't angry at all with my friend, I am angry of what happened, I am angry because she choose to love that jerk who is responsible why our friendship has been broken, I am angry because we have to loose something great, I am angry because they moved on and that jerk was acting like he did nothing wrong, enjoying every second of his life with my friend, smiling like saying right in my face that he wins. I am angry because I was left behind with all this anger and pain. I miss m...

I saw this quote while reading old messages from my cell phone.. The real meaning of friendship.. “ it isn’t based on how many secrets you share.. isn’t how well you get along nor how much you like each other.. isn’t how people see you together.. BUT it appreciates the differences.. the gaps.. the hindrances.. the trials.. and still a friend looks at you straight from the heart.. without hatred.. without judgment.. without envy.. without criticism.. only PURE ACCEPTANCE..” I don’t have the guts to tell you this personally so I decided to write it down.. :) nget , every time you thank me and my family for a couple of months you stayed here in our home, I always thought that it should be the other way around. You’ve never been a burden to us and you really know how to get along well with each member of my family.  Thank you for being such a wonderful friend to me. Actually, you’re not just a friend to me..  you stand like a big sister to me. Thank yo...

Since the day I learned making friends, I really believed that I am very good in treasuring and giving importance to friendship. Everyone who knew me how emotional I get when it comes to my friends. Until today, I still have communications from my elementary friends, high school friends, college friends and even those who I worked with from my previous jobs. I always enjoyed chatting with them and spending time with them once in a while especially now that we’re all grown up and busy with our own lives. But what happens next when too much conflict happened between you and some of your friends and you’re all fed up? We’ve tried to fix things but for some reason we’re not like the same one just like before. Now it seems like we’re drifting apart from each other. Although, there are times we missed the old days, yet we can’t bring it back the way it used to be and we’re now like different persons who can’t stand each other’s company. That’s the sad part of it. Although they don’...

Last April 17, 2012, I happened to read the message from the Facebook application GOD WANTS YOU TO KNOW .. " On this day, God wants you to know that difficult people are very important, - they teach you tolerance and acceptance. If all was going your way all the time, you would become a spoiled child, wouldn't everyone? Difficult people are just one of the ways God teaches us to expand beyond our egos and accept of other perspectives on life. " What if I can no longer tolerate someone's attitude and I can't stand being with that person anymore? That someone happens to be the person who used to be my friend. Does that mean I failed to the test of God? I admit, I used to enjoy her company and that we have lots of happy moments together before. But those were the times that I am still patient with all her mood swings, childish ways and being closed-mindedness. Those were the times that I can still tolerate everything about her that makes me annoyed. ...

Our friendship starts back in year 2007. I met her in my previous work, were not really friends at first because we both have our different circle of friends then. My first impression to her was that she was a snob girl (^-^ sorry nget, it’s just my first impression); she doesn’t seem to be friendly so I did not make any move to make friends at her at that time. But things change when we both became a member in one team in our workplace. When the group started to go out and have some fun, that’s the time we started to get along together. In that case, I’m wrong with my first impression to her and that she is not bad at all ^_^. We became more at ease together when she moved to another place and started to go home together after work. Many was surprised that we became friends and we’re laughing about that, what’s the matter if we became friends?.. Although, we both belonged in different religion, it was never an issue to us. I remember, she frequently asked me then if it’s...

What does friendship means?.. According to wikipedia.org, FRIENDSHIP is co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a rela tions hip which involves mutual knowledge , esteem , and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of n -->eed or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism . Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior , such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors . Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis: the ...