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Are You Your Own Worst Enemy or Your Own Best Friend?

Author: Rose DesRochers

Are you the kind of person who is your own worst enemy? Do you live your life with doubt, always trying to live up to the standards others set for you? Life can be filled with disappointments if we live each day seeking the approval of others.

Remember that you are who you are because of you, not because of another’s perception of you. At the end of your life the only important question will be: "Did you live your life as you saw fit?"

In all honesty, I can be my own worse enemy. I let people get the better of me.

When you let someone get the best of you than you are really letting them win. In life we are faced with the joy of living life or the pain and disappointment of not living life to its fullest.

I have always gotten by the strength and courage that I learned from my mother. One thing that she taught me was that life is a battle and sometimes you have to fight or you will die having never tried.

I am in charge of my destiny, and it is up to me and only me to live my life. I know what’s important to me. I set goals for myself and I meet those goals. I know my friends, and I know my family, and most importantly, I know myself. I know who Rose DesRochers is.

Ask yourself, what is important to you? Do you know who you are? Are you happy with yourself as you are?

Never lose sight of who you are, and what you stand for. If someone wants to dismiss you because you don't meet up to their standards, that is their problem. Maybe they set their standards a little too high.

Don’t allow yourself to be your own worst enemy. Sometimes it’s just a matter of putting yourself first. If you can love someone else, why can you not love yourself? You are worthy of being loved.

Be true to yourself and your values. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself even when it feels uncomfortable. Accept yourself as you are. Never let anyone dictate to you who you should be. A poor self-image will only make you feel worthless. Believe in yourself, because the one person you can trust and rely on is you.

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Can you see in yourself who you really are, or do you see yourself as others want you to be?

Building self confidence means learning to love yourself. Learn to believe in yourself. Learn to accept the things that cannot be changed. Learn to accept that you’re not perfect, nobody is. Learn to accept that you cannot change someone’s opinion of you. Quit wasting time dwelling on what is negative in your life and concentrate on what is positive. Stand up and be counted, because at the end of the day when you look in the mirror, you should see your best friend.

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In my own views..


Sometimes, we live life according to the perceptions or standards set by other people around us. We tried to be nice to all of them just to please them or maybe to receive acceptance from them. Until we realize that we’re no longer living the way it should be, the way we want, or we might say to ourselves, “this is not me!”


I knew a lot of people who lives like this, for some people around them they thought that they are happy for what they’ve become, for their achievements.. but the truth is they aren’t. At the end of the day, when they are alone, that despite of all achievements, they are weeping.. because it is as if it’s the achievements of the person/people who sets standards for them, not them.


We don’t have to be super nice always, sometimes we need to show our bad side so that we would know who can accept us at our worst mood. It’s good to be nice, but by doing this sometimes we let other people get the better of us.


Definitely, we are in charge of our own destiny and its up to us on how we live our own lives. We shouldn’t care about the perceptions of other people to us. Anyway, it’s us who knows really well our own selves.

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