a friend ...

They say that misunderstandings between you and your friends strengthen the friendship. This way, you’ll both realize your mistakes and differences, and will understand each other much better than before.

When we experience misunderstandings or quarrel among our friends, we think that it’s just right that the person who made the mistake should be the one who’ll apologize and make a move to reunite the friendship. That’s how we think.

Pride hinders us to apologize to someone we had hurt. Sometimes we want to apologize but we don’t know how to approach them and we’re too afraid that they might just ignore us. What we don’t know is if someone really values you as a friend, we don’t know need any explanation and even a single a word is useless. Just a simple smile and hug from a friend is enough to ease all the anger and restore the friendship.

This is what I learned from these past few days. Yes, it is true that the one who made the mistake should be the one who’ll apologize, but sometimes it’s not really important who made the mistake, who should be sorry or who made the first move to reconcile. The important thing is your eagerness to save the friendship and value each other.

“Birds with the same feathers flocks together.” Yes, it’s true but in some case it’s the other way around. No one is perfect. We all have our own differences. Maybe we can both learn from each other’s differences. We can’t change them for what and who they are in an instant. It’s just in the way how we understand and accept them. If anything about them we don’t like and affects your friendship, maybe we could approach them and told them nicely. That way, they would know how we feel about it and who knows?.. they may change slowly.

Being a friend is not just lending a shoulder to cry on when their sad. Sometimes, it’s more on understanding and accepting them for who they are. It’s not that we just sit and be silent whenever we don’t like how they act, it’s how we handle and approach things.